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Brides who chose 80s wedding dresses first worn by their mums

A bride and groom dancing on a dance floor on their wedding day.
Kate Gray says the layers of lace underneath her mum's 80s wedding dress made for a great dancefloor moment.()

The 80s was a wild and glorious time for fashion, wedding dresses especially, with their sky-high puffy sleeves and layers of chiffon.

And it turns out modern brides aren't opposed to embracing these iconic looks from decades past.

Caitlin Healy, a celebrant based in Brisbane, was drawn to the idea of wearing her mum's wedding dress as part of her low-impact wedding in 2016.

"We had foraged flowers, used local vendors, had vintage rings — we wanted it to not be excessive in terms of consumption," the 35-year-old says.

"I knew a second-hand wedding dress was probably likely, but even more so than that, I have a lot of different tastes and style.

"I don't think I could have ever locked down just one thing I would have wanted to wear."

We spoke to Caitlin, along with Kate Gray, Bhairavi Raman, and Maggie Kelly, about why they chose a family member's 80s wedding fit for their special day.

'Mum designed it herself'

Caitlin standing with her mum, daughter and sister.
Caitlin with her mum (centre), who originally designed and wore the dress while pregnant with her other daughter Emma (second from right).()

Caitlin says her mum's dress — which as a costume designer, she designed herself — was pretty and "not too 80s-ish".

The raw silk dress is a deep-cream colour, with short lace sleeves and hand-cut leaves.

"We wanted to have heaps of gum leaves in our bouquets … her sleeves were made from individually cut gum leaves," she says.

Caitlin's mum is shorter than her, and was pregnant when she got married.

Sandra and Jim Healy at their wedding in the 1980s
Caitlin's parents, Sandra and Jim Healy, at their wedding in the 1980s.()

Caitlin's aunty was able to make some alterations to add a waist and lengthen the dress.

"I felt good," Caitlin says of her wearing the dress on her wedding day.

"It just felt comfortable, practical — and it was sentimental and sustainable.

"It had passed through my aunty's hands as well. So it really ticked a lot of boxes."

'I felt like it was made for me even though it was made for mum'

A bride in a white dress with a garland in her hair poses with her mum, in a blue dress, in a bush garden.
Kate Gray, with her mum, says the "crown" of the dress is the lace balero.()

Kate Gray from Newcastle had a "light-bulb moment" to wear her mum's wedding dress while watching reality TV show Say Yes To The Dress.

"I never really had a strong idea or desire as to what style of dress I wanted and I was watching that show and saw a dress come on that reminded me of Mum's," the 40-year-old, who married in 2015, explains.

Kate remembered seeing her mum's gown hanging in the wardrobe as a child, and was thrilled to learn she still had it.

"I felt like it was made for me even though it was made for Mum," Kate says.

Being in a garment bag for so long, there was some discolouration, so Kate took it to a specialist dry cleaner.

"It came back incredible. It was just so glossy and gleaming and beautiful and vibrant," she says.

The dress had a sweetheart neckline with princess cut waist and a three-tiered lace skirt.

"It's got quite an 80s, almost Wedding Singer, vibe to it," Kate says.

"And the crown jewel is it comes with a fancy bolero."

A dressmaker adjusted the dress to fit Kate's shape, and when she was trying it on, the spaghetti strap snapped.

"I called Mum, and she was speechless. That same strap had snapped for her."

'Her gifting me her sari is just an example of her generosity'

A young woman in wedding makeup and headdress wearing a heavily jewelled red and green sari .
Bhairavi says she instantly fell in love with her aunt's sari.()

When attending her cousin's wedding, Bhairavi Raman fell in love with the vaira oosi sari she was wearing.

Vaira oosi means diamond needle, and according to Bhairavi, was "all the rage" in the 80s.

She discovered her aunt still had her sari from her 80s wedding, and immediately fell in love when she saw it.

Bhairavi describes the sari as a subtle shiny dark blue, with a pink border.

"From far off, because it's vaira oosi, it shines but in a subtle, elegant way," she says.

She says her aunt is one of the most selfless, and nurturing people, so sharing her sari was no exception.

"Her gifting me her sari to wear is just an example of her generosity," Bhairavi says.

Bhairavi satnding with her aunt in her first outfit of the wedding.
Bhairavi with her aunt, who generously lent her wedding sari.()

"Some family members were worried about it ripping — sari's age over time and that is a high risk.

"But it held strong!"

Bhairavi says it was a small way of honouring her aunt and the "huge role" she'd played in her life.

'The look on her face was so beautiful'

A bride and groom stare lovingly at each other as they walk along a pathway in the botanic gardens.
Maggie wore the dress in its original form.()

When Maggie Kelly tried on a dress her mum had worn to her late aunty's wedding decades ago, "It fit like a glove".

"The look on her face was so beautiful — and the look on Dad's face was really special," the 35-year-old from Melbourne says, adding that the aunt who was married is her dad's sister.

"I thought 'yep, this is a really nice way to involve some ritual into the wedding'."

Maggie opted for a modern gown for her actual wedding day, which took place last year, but wore the cream silk number to her rehearsal lunch the day prior.

"It has a very 80s drop waist, a fitted cuff, it's quite tight on the sleeve and then balloons out," she says.

"It's knee length, and has seed pearls and lace detailing around the collar."

maggie kelly laughing with her mum
Maggie with her mum, who originally wore the dress as a bridesmaid.()

Maggie had initially taken the dress to a tailor with the intention of bringing the sleeves in and shortening it into a mini.

But she says it felt like there was "something brutal about that", and later changed her mind.

"I decided no, you wear it as it is, and preserve that. And I'm really glad I did."

The Way We Wore — a vibrant three-part exploration of Australia's fashion industry starring Celeste Barber — is on ABC iview now.

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